It's learning to just listen. Just listen to her frustrations; the thoughts that she becomes "stuck" on and then knowing when to tell her that is enough. Learning HOW, what words to use, to help her stop the negative thoughts.
For years, before having an Aspy doc explain about how she processes, I would try to argue and persuade her. You know, try to get her to see another point of view. But that doesn't work with her. She still has to learn to hear someone else's view; she is still learning how to reflect on herself.
Then, later on in the day, when she is not stuck, I can bring the subject up and offer some advice, a different approach.
What was she stuck on this morning? School. It's boring. There are no parties in 5th grade. There are no good books she can read at her level (which is an 8th grade level).
Seems like a simple fix right? Think again. This is draining. Because I don't hear those things one time; it is over and over and over. Mentally it is draining. But, what is a mom to do? I will call on the name of my God for patience and compassion. And, I will keep her. I will love on her right where she is at.
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